I’m nearly 28 weeks now and spent the weekend feeling stiff and sore and generally third trimesterish. I can never remember when the third trimester starts, and there seems to be no real consensus about it, but several “sources” (i.e. Baby.center) say 27 weeks so I’m going to go with it! I am now as big as I was with Juju at about 30 or 32 weeks. I don’t have any measurements from that time but comparing pics of myself from last time, yeah, I’m definitely way bigger.
I still feel pretty good overall– not too tired and I can get up and down and around pretty well. I’m still sitting on a small stool on the floor to do my math groups, but probably not for too much longer. My hips are way creaky but chiropractic and stretching is helping. No pubic symphysis pain yet except for some very very minor pain a few weeks ago. Hoping that beast stays away– yeeeow. I’ve had a bit of round ligament pain in the past week but nothing too bad.
I think Jelly is head down judging by the kind of movements I feel– lots of hard kicks up high and flutters down low. The midwives taught C how to feel for positioning last time and she’s actually not half bad at it. She agrees with me about his position. Jelly does a little booty shake most evenings and we’re both in agreement it’s a butt up there wiggling around.
Juju continues to be amazing and hilarious. We have survived the time change and seem to mostly have her back on schedule. She is a little excited about the baby and a little apprehensive. She doesn’t want to touch my stomach or kiss it, though she did kiss the baby for the first time ever last night after elbowing him while she was climbing around on me. We’ve read lots of big sister type books and I don’t know how much she’s taking in or what she really thinks. Her favorite is a kind of stupid one called Penny Loves Pink. My favorites have been A Baby is Coming to Your House and Mr. Roger’s The New Baby. We also have a nice book about nursing called Mama’s Milk. Any other suggestions?
C and I just have to make it through 3 more work days and then we’re off to Hawaii with Juju in tow. Come on, sunshine. It’s “warmer” here, but still only about +15 F, which is no one’s idea of warm.
How Far Along? 23 weeks, 1 day
Total Weight Gained/Loss? +5 pounds
Maternity Clothes: Yep. I have the same stuff I did with Juju as I haven’t bought anything new. It’s getting boring already, but such is life. I do love me some maternity pants. Not panels, which I can’t stand, but just a nice elastic waist. Ahh.
Sleep? Not bad. I’m getting creeeeaky but am still sleeping well with maybe one wakeup to pee. Nothing to complain about.
Aches and Pains? My hips are beginning their separation and relocation to other parts of my anatomy. Sitting for longer than oh, 5 minutes, results in some good creaks when I get up. Going to the chiro the week after next. The SPD hasn’t reared its ugly head too much yet but I have felt it go out of alignment a couple of times already. I wince at the memory of that ripping feeling in my crotch– yeouch.
Best Moments of the Week? The light is coming back which is amazing. We’re having a very warm (well, for us) winter. I had a good week with my students too. We made bridges and then tested them to see how much weight they’d hold without breaking. The kids got really into it.
Movement: Tons. This kid is a mover and shaker. He loves to roll and does these huge flops when I reach up high to grab things up high– something about that movement and stretch. He also wiggled like craxy a couple of days ago when Juju was throwing an extremely loud tantrum. He’ll be used to the sound before he gets here!
Food Craving: Expensive cuts of meat like last time. Somebody make me a filet mignon! And not well done either!
Food Aversions: I’m pretty much over this now thankfully.
Morning sickness? Nope. Still the odd toothbrush gag but nothing major.
Gender: It’s a boy!
What I miss: Hips that work properly. Being able to lift Juju easily and without pelvic pain. Wine.
What I’m looking forward to: Hawaii in a month! Reorganizing Juju’s (and Jelly’s) room.
Baby preparedness: We should really rename this “fitting another human into our life and home.” We’re making a plan to get rid of a bookshelf in Juju’s room and get another cubby shelf for Jelly’s clothes. The closet needs to be cleared too. We need a mattress for the crib– the one that was there is now in Juju’s toddler bed. We also need to make space in our room for the cosleeper which will have to get used this time. Juju slept in it maybe 5 times!
I’m home with a sick-but-recovering-but-still-pretty-dang-fussy Juju today. She’s asleep and I’ve already cleaned up the kitchen, folded the laundry and read the Downton Abbey Facebook Recap, and internet shopping is bad for my finances, so I’m going to subject you to this long typing exercise. I mean meme.
1. How old will you be in five years?
Forty fucking years old. I mean, forty. And a half.
2. Who did you spend at least two hours with today?
Just me and Juju, and C if you count sleeping.
3. How tall are you?
5’3″ and a half.
4. What do you look forward to most in the next six weeks?
6 weeks until spring break and then Maui!
5. What’s the last movie you saw?
We neeeever watch movies anymore. I think it was Despicable Me, actually, ha.
6. Who was the last person you called?
My daycare provider.
7. Who was the last person to call you?
C called us during her lunch.
8. What was the last text message you received?
“Looks fun and sloppy” from C in response to a pic I sent of Juju ladling colored soapy water from the sink into a bunch of small bowls.
9. Who was the last person to leave you a voice mail?
C’s dad. He calls a lot. He is one of those people who likes to tell you the weather forecast every day, which is a little annoying but mostly endearing.
10. Do you prefer to call or text?
Text or email.
11. What were you doing at 12am last night?
Sleeping with one ear open for puke noises from Juju’s room (there were none).
12. Are your parents married/divorced?
13. When did you last see your mom?
14. What color are your eyes?
Blue, sort of sea green in the right light.
15. What time did you wake up this morning?
6:00. Also I tucked Juju back in at 5:00. Way to spend a day off.
16. What are you wearing right now?
Pajama pants, v-neck shirt, San Francisco zip up hoodie that my belly is outgrowing.
17. What is your favorite Christmas song?
In the Bleak Midwinter
18. Where is your favorite place to be?
Home. Or the beach.
19. Where is your least favorite place to be?
Probably at a party.
20. Where would you go if you could go anywhere?
I want to take the Trans-Siberian Express going westward from Vladivostok.
21. Where do you think you’ll be in 10 years?
Hopefully in a bigger house, or at least one with a yard.
22. Do you tan or burn?
Mostly burn and freckle. Maybe tan a teeny bit.
23. What did you fear was going to get you at night when you were a child?
I am still uneasy in the dark, actually. As a kid I think I just feared the Boogeyman, or a stubbed toe.
24. What was the last thing that really made you laugh?
C and I were cracking up in bed last night talking about Juju’s illness and recovery. We’re horrible, aren’t we? It’s just that Juju had the rankest… OK, probably more info than you need.
25. How many TVs do you have in your house?
26. How big is your bed?
27. Do you have a laptop or desktop?
28. Do you sleep with or without clothes?
Undies only or naked.
29. What color are your sheets?
30. How many pillows do you sleep with?
Two, and C has two and a pretty big teddy bear. This might be why we don’t co-sleep.
31. What is your favorite season?
Summer. Or fall if I were someplace where fall is more than a week long.
33. What do you like about winter?
Christmas. How pretty and sparkly it is. How people band together here to fight off the darkness with alcohol and carbs. Having a perfectly good excuse to stay home in pj’s and read.
34. What do you like about the summer?
Light! Not having to wear a million layers. SANDALS. Swimming.
35. What do you like about spring?
Buds on the trees, people flocking out on that first nice day, smelling living things again, days getting longer, opening the windows after a long winter.
36. How many states/provinces have you lived in?
(No autumn?) Two, here and in the SW.
37. What cities/towns have you lived in?
Three, here and two in the SW.
38. Do you prefer shoes, socks, or bare feet?
Bare feet or flip flops.
39. Are you a social person?
40. What was the last thing you ate?
Half an apple and a bowl of homemade mac and cheese.
41. What is your favorite restaurant?
I like Thai food and have a favorite Thai place downtown.
42. What is your favorite ice cream?
43. What is your favorite dessert?
44. What is your favorite kind of soup?
Tomato or black bean. Or a really good homemade chicken noodle, but it has to be homemade.
45. What kind of jelly do you like on your PB & J sandwich?
I like raspberry jam. I’m not so much with the jellies.
46. Do you like Chinese food?
Definitely. We almost never get takeout Chinese but Jelly has been super craving it so I may have to bend C’s arm.
47. Do you like coffee?
Goodness yes. We just got a Keurig and it’s awesome. My favorite though is a plain latte. Pretty boring.
48. How many glasses of water a day do you drink on average?
8 or 10. I don’t drink anything but water and coffee.
49. What do you drink in the morning?
Coffee with cream.
51. Do you sleep on a certain side of the bed?
52. Do you know how to play poker?
Yes but I haven’t since my days as a Girl Scout camp counselor.
53. Do you like to cuddle?
Yes but I don’t want anyone touching me when I try to sleep.
54. Have you ever been to Canada?
I drove through on my way here but that’s it.
55. Do you have an addictive personality?
I don’t think so.
56. Do you eat out or at home more often?
Home, and I take a lunch every day to work. I get a half hour so I can’t imagine how you could leave the building and make it back.
58. Do you know anyone with the same birthday as you?
Not that I know of. Juju’s is a week after mine.
59. Do you want kids?
Maybe? Just kidding.
60. Do you speak any other languages?
I’m rusty, but I used to speak Spanish pretty well. I can get around on vacation, at least well enough to not get taken by hagglers.
61. Have you ever gotten stitches?
Just in my gums after my wisdom teeth. After my gallbladder surgery I just had steri strips and tegaderm. edited: Oh, and in my nether regions after Juju was born! Blocked that one, didn’t I?!
62. Have you ever ridden in an ambulance?
63. Do you prefer an ocean or a pool?
Ocean, but I will certainly accept a pool!
64. Do you prefer a window seat or an aisle seat?
I never know! I like to look out, but I don’t like to be penned in. These days I’m always in the middle with C on the aisle and Juju at the window.
65. Do you know how to drive stick?
No. Several people have tried to teach me but it never sticks. Ha ha.
66. What is your favorite thing to spend money on?
Juju. And food. And accoutrements for travel.
67. Do you wear any jewelry 24/7?
I mostly take my rings off at home– actually I take them off to cook and then just don’t put them on again until I leave the house. I do wear small opal stud earrings all the time.
68. What is your favorite TV show?
Lately Revolution or Grimm. Of all time probably Lost.
69. Can you roll your tongue?
70. Who is the funniest person you know?
I know a lot of really funny people!
71. Do you sleep with stuffed animals?
Just C’s scratchy teddy bear– he wears clothes for me.
72. What is the main ring tone on your phone?
It’s a train whistle. I set it up when I got the phone and then I never learned how to do a better ringtone.
73. Do you still have clothes from when you were little?
My mom is such a hoarder. I have tons of stuff from when I was little. I get it back one flat rate box at a time.
74. What red object is closest to you right now?
Juju’s Rody horse is part red.
75. Do you turn off the water while you brush your teeth?
I let it run until it’s warm so I can wash my face after, and then I turn it off.
76. Do you sleep with your closet doors open or closed?
Closed so the cats stay out. What a boring question! Who cares!
77. Would you rather be attacked by a big bear or a swarm of bees?
Swarm of bees, I guess? More chance of surviving it, more chance of getting covered in honey.
78. Do you flirt a lot?
Not at all.
79. What do you dip a chicken nugget in?
Just plain honey.
80. What is your favorite food?
Hmmm. I love a hot loaf of fresh French bread with some Camembert.
81. Can you change the oil on a car?
I haven’t in like 12 years, but I could once.
82. Have you ever gotten a speeding ticket?
I have never even been pulled over. I’m such a goody two shoes.
83. Have you ever run out of gas?
84. What is your usual bed time?
About 9:30. Baller!
85. What was the last book you read?
I’m reading the latest #1 Ladies’ Detective Agency. It’s hardly highbrow. Don’t judge me, I read a lot! And I like fluff.
86. Do you read the newspaper?
Rarely. C will catch me up.
87. Do you have any magazine subscriptions?
No. I’d appreciate suggestions for Juju, though. I have been thinking of Ladybug for her.
89. Do you watch soap operas?
90. Do you dance in the car?
No, I listen to NPR and it’s not very danceable.
91. What radio station did you last listen to?
NPR when I’m by myself, Raffi or The Beach Boys if I’m with Juju.
92. Who is in the picture frame closest to you?
Me and C, looking super young.
93. What was the last note you scribbled on a piece of paper?
Juju’s measurements for some little nightgowns my mom is going to make her.
94. What is your favorite candle scent?
I can’t stand scented candles.
95. What is your favorite board game?
Apples to Apples. With Juju, My First Orchard Game or Zitternix.
97. When was the last time you attended church?
I went to a Christmas service with my parents in…2007?
98. Who was your favorite teacher in high school?
My (female) chemistry teacher was pretty awesome and would swear (mildly) which of course we loved.
99. What is the longest you have ever camped out in a tent?
All summer if a platform tent counts. Otherwise maybe 5 days of backpacking.
100. Who was the last person to do something extra special for you?
C bought me a bunch of dye-free sweets because the baby wants sweets but I should maybe lay off the jellybeans. I love her for finding me an alternative instead of chastising me. (She did a bit, but gently.)
I’ve felt certain this baby was a boy since I saw the two lines on the pregnancy test, so no big surprise there, for me anyway. C was really hoping for a girl and is a little disappointed, but she’s coming around. She’s out shopping for clearance snowsuits for him right now, actually.
While I was expecting this I must say I’m a little floored about what I’ll do with a boy. My little pink princess loves to bake and paint and sit quietly and read with me, all of which comes very naturally to me. I’m not saying a boy wouldn’t do those things, but I do think I’ll have to expand my repertoire.
I’ve been brainstorming some good things about having a boy:
-Fewer expectations from us that the baby will be like Juju, making us less likely to pigeonhole him.
-Possibly less competition and maybe less rivalry between Juju and Jelly.
-C will possibly have someone to watch sports with and enroll in t-ball**. Juju has a decent arm but 0 interest in sports thus far.
-We can use our boy name for Juju (maybe?), which we love.
-Maybe we’ll get a builder/constructor and problem-solver– Juju is definitively neither of those things.
-I love the idea of a kid who is into different things than Juju. Of course, a girl could be into different things too, I know.
Add to my list, please!
*Terrible picture! We had a pretty lame experience with this tech. She was unfriendly, didn’t talk to C at all, and could barely bother to narrate what she was doing which of course set my heart all aflutter that something was wrong. And she answered her cell phone twice. OH, and she bruised my belly digging around trying to get pics of Jelly’s heart. Ouch!
**I get that it’s super ironic that C, the tomboy, softball-playing sports fan, is disappointed to have a boy. But she is.
Two and a half is challenging! Fun and adorable and so, so funny but, whew, this kid keeps us on our toes. She is so certain of what she wants, and will not back down. She argues and talks back even. I never thought I’d have that with a two year old. She loves big, though. She’s passionate and funny and smart and honest. She’ll grow into an amazing adult. C and I have been reminding ourselves since she was a tiny baby that her being strong-willed is a good thing, it just means more work for us now.
-We try to talk to her as much as possible when she’s upset, though it’s pretty hard to reason with her. Often she’ll do better after a time out and will be willing to calm down and talk. She doesn’t really understand “Why” questions yet (she knows the answer should begin with “because,” but her answers tend to be a rephrasing of the question) so figuring out what set her off can be tricky. 1-2-3 Magic continues to be mostly successful. I really recommend it.
-We’ll tell her about the baby after the anatomy scan on Friday. (Egad, Friday!) She talks a lot about wanting to have a baby (which might mean a stuffed animal…) so I think she’ll be into the idea of it at least.
-She thrives on routine which is good because C and I do too. We always talk over what will happen the next day before we put her to bed. Our morning and night routines almost never vary and I know she likes that. Our trickiest time of day is evening after daycare and before bed. She does best if she can be a helper in some way.
-She loves to wear dresses. We don’t send her to daycare in them because I think it’s still too hard for her to manipulate her clothes to use the bathroom, but she wears dresses all weekend and when she’s with C’s dad (usually one day per week).
-She is hefty at about 32 pounds. She wears 3T shirts and 2T pants, which still run a little long. She is in a size 7.5 or 8 shoe.
-She is a pretty good eater overall. She loves any kind of fruit, most cheeses, and most any bread or grain. Vegetables are still hit and miss and we make a HUGE deal out of her trying new ones, even things like corn and carrots. She loves to dip things so you can often sell her on new food if it includes a dip of some kind. She eats the same things for breakfast and lunch most days just to keep life simple– yogurt and fruit for breakfast, and a cookie cutter pb&j sandwich for lunch with fruit, cheese, and a small treat like a marshmallow or 3 or 4 chocolate chips. She likes juice but we hardly ever give her any. She is a good water drinker like her mommies.
-She is totally daytime potty trained and is doing well with poop, too, which was a huge hassle in the beginning. She will really only poop at home or at grandpa’s but does it with little drama so we’re thankful for that. She was dry at night for a while there but we missed the window for night training and we’re back to wet pull-ups in the morning. We need to get on the night training but C and I just haven’t had the energy.
-She goes to bed (in her new toddler bed!) at 6:30 or 7:00 and wakes around 6:00 on week days and 7:00 on weekends. She takes one 1-1.5 hour nap. She’ll sleep longer if you let her but it really messes with her nighttime sleep so we wake her earlier. Her daycare provider wakes her after an hour.
-She continues to be incredibly verbal. She speaks in complete sentences with correct articles and, often, correct irregular verbs, which I find fascinating. She will rephrase or specify if you don’t understand her articulation. She can’t say S (lisp) or L (substitutes Y or sometimes T), and doesn’t say any blends to speak of, especially S blends where she’ll just drop the S altogether. She knows most of the letters, capital and lower case, and can spell her name and recognize a few words.
-She loves to be read to. Her favorites are the Little House picture books, Pete the Cat, and anything by Todd Parr.
-She loves any kind of art and is always happy to color, glue, paint, or do play dough. We have a membership to our Children’s Museum and go there maybe every other weekend. Even though there are a million things to do there she spends most of her time at the art table.
-She can count to 10 accurately and is less accurate with 11-20. She can count quantities up to about 8 with good accuracy.
-Other than art and books her favorite toys are stuffed animals and board games. We have a few toddler board games and it’s so great to be able to play games with her! Our very favorite is “My First Orchard Game.” Other favorites are “The Sneaky, Snacky Squirrel Game” and “Thinkfun Roll and Play.” One or more of these comes out every day. Dress up is a hit too, the girlier the better.
-She hates manipulating objects and just will not play with puzzles or blocks. Her train set mostly gathers dust. She doesn’t play with cars and only occasionally with a ball, though she has a decent arm. She isn’t into dollhouses, either, but maybe she’ll still young.
-She has friends at daycare and does so well sharing and taking turns there. She’s in a small in-home daycare 4 days per week and what a gem it is. There are about 8 kids there– Juju and a 2 year old boy, a couple of three year old girls, and a four year old boy, and others who come just occasionally. The daycare provider also has an 11 month old boy. It is such a fun and happy place and I’m so thrilled we found it. I love bringing her artwork home. Right now they’re doing pirates and on Thursday she brought home a tiny pink eyepatch. Awesome.
-She can sing the words to many songs and can even carry a tune! She has a great memory for music and lyrics and keeps me honest if I sing things wrong. We do a family band occasionally and make a racket with the instruments Grammy sent for Christmas. It is hilarious and fun.
I read some wisdom this week that if you’re parenting right your kids won’t turn out the way you hoped. They’ll turn out better. She is, without a doubt, better in every way than I dared to hope. Watching her grow is the greatest joy and privilege of my life so far.