Juju at 2 years 9 months (I’m doing this now because there’s no way I’ll remember once the baby is born!) I didn’t realize I hadn’t done one of these updates since her 2nd birthday.
* Describe what and how your child eats: She’s still a decent but not perfect eater. She continues to love all fruit, breads, crackers and pastas, most cheeses, yogurt, and whatever sweets she can get her hands on. Meats are hit and miss but she does like ground turkey and sometimes chicken. We don’t eat much red meat but she tends to like it if you can just get her to try it. She isn’t great with vegetables but will try most things (if you bribe her, of course) and likes veggies in ranch. Lately she’s been eating lots of roasted cauliflower and spinach salad if it’s drowned in ranch.
* Where and how much does your child sleep? She still sleeps well, going down at about 6:30 or 7:00 (yes, we’re extremely lucky) and waking around 6:00 or 7:00. She takes one 1-1.5 hour nap. She is dry at night now and completely done with pull ups. Hooray!
* Does your child have any sleep problems? No.
Physical Development and Health
* What is your child’s current size/weight: I’m not certain but probably close to 3 feet tall and maybe 32 pounds.
* What about pee and poop? She is completely potty trained (w00t!) and dry at night and for naps. She is still a weirdo about poop but slowly getting better. She needs cajoling and we do still do rewards for poop sometimes– usually a marshmallow or jelly bean.
* How many teeth? 20
* What, if any, health issues are apparent: None.
Activity and Motor Development
* Describe your child’s gross and fine motor skills (how she moves around, grabs things, etc.): She’s not the most coordinated kid in the world when it comes to gross motor (she is my daughter after all), but she can jump and sort of hop, walk stairs with alternating feet and do all sorts of dance moves. We’ll work on pedaling a tricycle and riding her balance bike this summer– the snow is just now melting. She’s better with fine motor and can mostly dress herself (not socks but everything else with LOTS of cajoling– she’s so whiny about this), use a spoon and fork well, and hold a pencil with a tripod grip.
* What can your child do for himself? She can get out any of her own toys, “read” to herself, do art on her own (i.e. she can take the caps off her markers and put them back on), and use the potty, wipe and manage her clothes.
Language and Communication
* Describe your child’s language abilities: Still such a talker! New this month are some very deliberate blends such as “TRain” and “SNack.” She had a good laugh with her daycare provider about whether or not triceratops ate “pants” or “plants,” and I can almost see the little wheels turning in her head as she stretches out the blends in her speech– so cute. She still substitutes /y/ for /l/ and has a lisp but most speech tics are disappearing which blows my mind. I’ll miss the baby speech! She can count objects accurately up to 10ish and name most letters. She is developing an understanding of time and asks me a lot about the days of the week and upcoming events. She knows for example that Friday is Papa (grandpa) day and Saturday and Sunday are Mummy and Mama days.
Social Development and Environment
* Can your child follow simple directions? Yes, she can follow multi-step directions pretty well. Incentives help. A lot.
* How does your child react to family outings and visitors? She is still slow to warm up but really likes showing off to family and friends after that. She can be such a ham– sometimes she gets a little too silly! She really likes being with older children and plays well with her cousins and the kids at daycare.
* Does your child play with other children? She does. Her wonderful home daycare does such a good job of teaching sharing and turn taking. It is such a nice happy place. She doesn’t often have to share her own things (but that’s changing very soon!) and does OK with this with prompting.
* In what ways, if any, does your child behave aggressively toward you, his siblings, his playmates, or others? Just in the past couple of weeks she’s bitten Mama twice, but it hasn’t been aggressive– more like she’s so silly and goofy that she just forgets to be gentle. Like a puppy I guess? For the most part she never has been one to hit or kick.
* Does your child have a strong preference for one parent? Still Mummy. We’re working on this.
Toys and Play
* List your child’s favorite toys and describe how he plays with them: She loves dress up and has a small cabinet full of things for dressing up. Favorites right now are a pink tutu swimsuit, which is worn most every day, and headbands and necklaces. She loves stuffed animals. She really likes any kind of art. I have a small easel set up on her little play table right now.
* What are your child’s favorite games? Our favorite board games are the Haba My First Orchard Game and the Sneaky Snacky Squirrel Game. She can also play War with playing cards if I take out the face cards (though she isn’t consistent in figuring out what’s bigger). She likes to play pretend games. One of our favorites is to get out a blue and a tan colored blanket and make a fake beach on the rug with “sand” and “water.”
* Does your child have a lovey? She has a pink stuffed cat named, of course, “Pink Kitty” who must sleep with her. There are others who come in and out but Pink Kitty is her very favorite. We even have a spare.
Feelings and Moods
* Describe your child’s range of feelings (comfort, discomfort, pleasure, joy, anger, affection, fear, hostility, depression / sadness) and how he expresses them: She remains pretty easygoing. Now that she’s so verbal we can generally talk her out of most freakouts (but not all, of course). She has her toddler moments if her socks are on wrong or she gets the wrong thing for breakfast or whatever but they’re mostly short lived.
* What is likely to upset your child? Your basic toddler weirdness with needing objects and routines a certain way, being reprimanded by Mama (she will always call for me if this happens which makes Mama pretty annoyed). Getting ready to leave often results in a freakout, even if she’s excited to go. I don’t know why that is but it can be aggravating.
* Describe how your child copes with discomfort, frustration, or other distress: Whining, crying, asking for hugs or to be picked up or carried.
* What makes her feel better? Hugs, maybe a special treat like getting to do something fun with one of us.
* What books does your child enjoy? Current faves are The Gruffalo, Room on the Broom and King Hugo’s Huge Ego¬- all three are rhyming books with awesome illustrations. Mama checks out library books at school every week. Lately she’s been getting a lot of Mo Willems’s Pigeon books and Charlie and Lola books. Funny books are preferred by all three of us.
How Far Along? 32 weeks (OK, actually 31 weeks 6 days)
Total Weight Gained/Loss? +11 pounds
Maternity Clothes: Yes. I am tired of them. Now my pants and underpants all roll down under my belly but I can’t stand panels so I don’t see a good solution there. I am super sick of my 4 pairs of maternity pants but am stuck with them until this blasted snow melts. It was below 0 F this morning (now a balmy +8 F) so I don’t see that happening too soon.
Sleep? Pretty OK. I’m definitely rolling around a lot trying to get comfortable, and changing positions is kind of exciting (read: painful), but I really can’t complain too much because I’m still getting a pretty good night’s rest.
Aches and Pains? Still just my hips and lower back. I moved a bunch of heavy things on Monday and paid for it dearly on Tuesday, but am feeling better now. I made my chiro appointments 3 weeks apart on the advice of the chiropractor but will switch back to every 2 weeks. Still no pubic symphysis pain! Knock wood!
Best Moments of the Week? We took Juju to a dog sledding display last weekend which she love love loved. She’s too young to ride in the sleds still but loved petting the dogs and puppies. I also got her a little tabletop easel which has been a lot of fun too. She sure loves art. She has requested that we make pink playdough tonight.
Movement: Tons. C has been feeling Jelly’s position for me– she’s quite good at it! I can’t tell for squat where he is. According to C he’s still head down which does jive with those bladder kicks I feel most evenings.
Food Craving: Nothing in particular.
Food Aversions: Nothing in particular.
Morning sickness? Nope. C’s still feeding the cats, though. Their wet food still makes me gag.
Gender: It’s a boy!
What I miss: Wine. Sitting/standing/lying down without pain.
What I’m looking forward to: A freebie hotel night on Friday– we had a reward that was going to expire so we’re going on a teensy vacation for one night. Juju will love the hotel pool. Continuing to organize the kids’ room.
Baby preparedness: We should really rename this “fitting another human into our life and home.”
-I cleared a space in the kids’ room for a cubby shelf for Jelly’s things. C needs to assemble the shelf and then we’ll buy some bins for it.
-Jelly’s clothes (we don’t have many) are sorted but not washed.
-We need to get all of the baby things out of the crawl space.
-We need to clear space in our room for the co-sleeper and a diaper changing area for Jelly.
-I suppose I have to get the pump out at some point and wash all of the bottles and stuff. Blegh. Can I tell you a secret? I kept all of my nipple shields. I want to get rid of them but I want to be sure I won’t need them again first.
-I need to start practicing my hypno.babies! I can’t even remember, but I don’t think I started in earnest until 36 weeks last time. But I really shouldn’t put it off too much longer.
-I started making a nightly cup of raspberry tea, and I’ll start oral evening primrose oil in a couple of weeks.
-I finally made an appointment with a backup provider in case we have a hospital transfer. It’s the same doctor I saw last time for backup coverage. She’s an osteopath and pretty natural birth friendly. Obviously I get that if we do have a hospital transfer some of our birth plan will be out the window, but I do want a backup provider who would be amenable to delayed cord clamping, skin to skin, minimal monitoring (maybe?), etc.
Whew! I guess this is really going to happen!
I’m nearly 28 weeks now and spent the weekend feeling stiff and sore and generally third trimesterish. I can never remember when the third trimester starts, and there seems to be no real consensus about it, but several “sources” (i.e. Baby.center) say 27 weeks so I’m going to go with it! I am now as big as I was with Juju at about 30 or 32 weeks. I don’t have any measurements from that time but comparing pics of myself from last time, yeah, I’m definitely way bigger.
I still feel pretty good overall– not too tired and I can get up and down and around pretty well. I’m still sitting on a small stool on the floor to do my math groups, but probably not for too much longer. My hips are way creaky but chiropractic and stretching is helping. No pubic symphysis pain yet except for some very very minor pain a few weeks ago. Hoping that beast stays away– yeeeow. I’ve had a bit of round ligament pain in the past week but nothing too bad.
I think Jelly is head down judging by the kind of movements I feel– lots of hard kicks up high and flutters down low. The midwives taught C how to feel for positioning last time and she’s actually not half bad at it. She agrees with me about his position. Jelly does a little booty shake most evenings and we’re both in agreement it’s a butt up there wiggling around.
Juju continues to be amazing and hilarious. We have survived the time change and seem to mostly have her back on schedule. She is a little excited about the baby and a little apprehensive. She doesn’t want to touch my stomach or kiss it, though she did kiss the baby for the first time ever last night after elbowing him while she was climbing around on me. We’ve read lots of big sister type books and I don’t know how much she’s taking in or what she really thinks. Her favorite is a kind of stupid one called Penny Loves Pink. My favorites have been A Baby is Coming to Your House and Mr. Rogers’s The New Baby. We also have a nice book about nursing called Mama’s Milk. Any other suggestions?
C and I just have to make it through 3 more work days and then we’re off to Hawaii with Juju in tow. Come on, sunshine. It’s “warmer” here, but still only about +15 F, which is no one’s idea of warm.
How Far Along? 23 weeks, 1 day
Total Weight Gained/Loss? +5 pounds
Maternity Clothes: Yep. I have the same stuff I did with Juju as I haven’t bought anything new. It’s getting boring already, but such is life. I do love me some maternity pants. Not panels, which I can’t stand, but just a nice elastic waist. Ahh.
Sleep? Not bad. I’m getting creeeeaky but am still sleeping well with maybe one wakeup to pee. Nothing to complain about.
Aches and Pains? My hips are beginning their separation and relocation to other parts of my anatomy. Sitting for longer than oh, 5 minutes, results in some good creaks when I get up. Going to the chiro the week after next. The SPD hasn’t reared its ugly head too much yet but I have felt it go out of alignment a couple of times already. I wince at the memory of that ripping feeling in my crotch– yeouch.
Best Moments of the Week? The light is coming back which is amazing. We’re having a very warm (well, for us) winter. I had a good week with my students too. We made bridges and then tested them to see how much weight they’d hold without breaking. The kids got really into it.
Movement: Tons. This kid is a mover and shaker. He loves to roll and does these huge flops when I reach up high to grab things up high– something about that movement and stretch. He also wiggled like craxy a couple of days ago when Juju was throwing an extremely loud tantrum. He’ll be used to the sound before he gets here!
Food Craving: Expensive cuts of meat like last time. Somebody make me a filet mignon! And not well done either!
Food Aversions: I’m pretty much over this now thankfully.
Morning sickness? Nope. Still the odd toothbrush gag but nothing major.
Gender: It’s a boy!
What I miss: Hips that work properly. Being able to lift Juju easily and without pelvic pain. Wine. :)
What I’m looking forward to: Hawaii in a month! Reorganizing Juju’s (and Jelly’s) room.
Baby preparedness: We should really rename this “fitting another human into our life and home.” We’re making a plan to get rid of a bookshelf in Juju’s room and get another cubby shelf for Jelly’s clothes. The closet needs to be cleared too. We need a mattress for the crib– the one that was there is now in Juju’s toddler bed. We also need to make space in our room for the cosleeper which will have to get used this time. Juju slept in it maybe 5 times!