I did this survey thingy for Juju at this age so I decided to do it again. The kids are so different I was tempted to compare them but I really want this to be about what Jelly is doing at this age so I refrained from comparisons. It was hard to do! Poor little second child deserves his own spotlight.
* Describe what and how your child eats: Still nursing in the morning and at night, and drinking 8-12 oz of pumped milk during the day when I’m at work. He eats most everything and likes pretty much all of it. We’re doing a mix of jar purees and table food. He likes pretty much any purees, yogurt and cottage cheese. Steamed slices of pear and apples are faves. He loves savory things and will mow down on egg rolls, slices of pizza, french fries, and pasta.
* Where and how much does your child sleep? He sleeps in his crib in the bedroom with Juju all night– from about 6:00 p.m. until perhaps 4:45 or 5:00, when I bring him into bed to nurse. He takes two naps. The morning nap is from about 8:30 until 10:00, afternoon varies more but is maybe from 1:00 until 2:30, though it’s often shorter.
* Does your child have any sleep problems? No. I wish he wouldn’t wake up quite to early but I’m sure he’ll outgrow it eventually, right? Like, at age 12 maybe?
Physical Development and Health
* What is your child’s current size/weight: I believe he was 18 lbs and 27 inches at his 6 month appointment? 50th percentile for both weight and height.
* What about pee and poop? He’s had some occasional constipation, especially when we started solid food, but his digestive system seems more used to it now. He was leaking out of all of the diapers but we had the elastic replaced and that fixed the problem, huzzah.
* How many teeth? 0. The top ones actually seem primed to pop through first but are taking their sweet time about it.
* What, if any, health issues are apparent: None so far, thankfully.
Activity and Motor Development
* Describe your child’s gross and fine motor skills (how she moves around, grabs things, etc.): He can roll back to front and front to back, sit unassisted and pivot in a circle when on his tummy. He’s sort of thinking about learning to crawl (halfheartedly) but when he lunges for things he goes backward, to his great dismay.
* What can your child do for himself? He can feed himself finger shaped foods well. He can grab at toys (or anything else) within reach.
Language and Communication
* Describe your child’s language abilities: He babbles lots of consonant sounds– g’s and b’s are most common. “Gee! Gee!” denotes great excitement, usually about nursing. He knows his name and turns when you call him. He gets excited when I ask if he wants milk.
Social Development and Environment
* Can your child follow simple directions? No. :)
* How does your child react to family outings and visitors? Totally depends on his mood. He absolutely needs time to warm up to people. If he’s tired having anyone other than us hold him is a no-go. If he’s awake and has a bit of time to warm up he tolerates other people but isn’t what I’d call friendly with strangers.
* Does your child play with other children? He and Juju love each other so much, it’s so sweet to see. He doesn’t really have any other baby playmates so far.
* In what ways, if any, does your child behave aggressively toward you, his siblings, his playmates, or others? He’s such a scratcher. Like sometimes he just grabs your whole head and claws at your neck. I think he might be part werewolf. This isn’t aggressive, though, just baby silliness.
* Does your child have a strong preference for one parent? You know, not really. If he’s hungry then of course he prefers me, but he and C are home all day and he just lights up when he sees her.
Toys and Play
* List your child’s favorite toys and describe how he plays with them: Hmm. He like the remotes– to put in his mouth. He has a rattle with bells on it that he always grabs for first. He likes any teether. Oh, and he loves his exersaucer, and good thing because it’s super nice to have someplace to put him.
* What are your child’s favorite games? He loves to be bounced up and down. He likes peekaboo. Not a lot of games happening at this age.
* Does your child have a lovey? Oh gosh, he loves stuffed animals. His favorite is his black and white dog, Pup Pup. He sleeps with an arm around him, dissolving my heart into a warm and splashy puddle.
Feelings and Moods
* Describe your child’s range of feelings (comfort, discomfort, pleasure, joy, anger, affection, fear, hostility, depression / sadness) and how he expresses them: He is almost always happy. He does get angry sometimes– especially in the car seat or if he’s not getting fed fast enough– and lets out a Hulk growl that makes us laugh. He pouts and whimpers if he’s sad, which turns into the most devastating wail. Oh, the last baby. Their cries will break your heart.
* What is likely to upset your child? Being strapped into the car seat, not being fed quickly enough, being left alone too long (though he’s pretty patient with his unless he’s tired).
* Describe how your child copes with discomfort, frustration, or other distress: Crying.
* What makes her feel better? Snuggles, pacifiers, drinks of water.
Best baby award. A+ :) (Don’t tell Juju.)
I’m always curious what everyone’s days look like. Here’s how are days are shaping up with Jelly (7 months) and Juju (3 and a half). C stays home full time with Jelly, I work full time, and Juju is at preschool all day. It just seemed best for our family to have Juju at preschool. We thought about half days, but she loves it and it gives Jelly the undivided attention that Juju had when she was his age. I am glad that financially this is working for us and that our little social butterfly is able to be around people which is best for her.
Here’s a typical day:
5:00 a.m. Jelly wakes up, I bring him into bed to nurse and perhaps catch another few minutes of sleep.
6:00 a.m. I’m up for the day. Sometimes Jelly will sleep a bit longer in bed with C, sometimes not.
6:30 a.m. Juju is up. Breakfast, ready for school, stories on the couch, etc.
7:00 a.m. I leave for work.
8:00 a.m. Juju gets picked up by grandparents. C drives her sometimes as well.
8:30 a.m. My students arrive.
8:45 a.m. The kids go to music or gym and I pump in my classroom. Isn’t that a horrible time for specials? We have our break first thing in the morning and then nothing for the rest of the day. I really hate it but am stuck with it.
12:30 p.m. The kids go to recess and C brings Jelly in to nurse. We used to do this every day. Now we’re down to 2 or 3 times a week. I feel beyond lucky to be able to have this time. I also engage C in slave labor grading things for me and sorting papers. :D
2:45 p.m. An aide covers my class while the children dress to go home and I go pump in a storage closet. It’s the most relaxing part of my day, haha. After 7 hours with little kids it’s not an unwelcome break.
3:00 p.m. School is dismissed.
3:30 p.m. I leave to pick up Juju from preschool.
4:00 p.m. Home, nurse the baby, start dinner, general chaos.
5:00 p.m. Dinner
6:00 p.m. Bedtime for Jelly
6:30 p.m. Bedtime for Juju
7:00 p.m. Shower, make lunches, grade papers, lesson planning, watch TV, etc.
9:00 p.m. I pry my eyes open and read for a half hour, and then bedtime for me and C. We’re pretty well rested for parents of a preschooler and a baby. I feel grateful that our kids are good sleepers, and I also am glad we put in the time to sleep train them very early. I know it’s not for everyone but it sure worked out great for us– and good thing because the kids share a room.
How does your average day look?
Just a quickie post here since I should really be working. :P We’ve had both kids in the same room for about 3 weeks now and it’s going really well. I nurse Jelly to sleep at about 6:00 and then swaddle him and put him in the crib. I bring Juju’s pajamas downstairs and do most of her bedtime routine there. One of us (or sometimes both if we have the energy) will read a story to Juju in our bedroom and then we pop her into bed and turn on her lullabye CD. She often goes right to sleep, but on the nights that she has been silly or a little noisy she hasn’t woken Jelly up, so far anyway.
Jelly sleeps mostly through the night. Most nights we do have to go and give him a pacifier, often a few times through the night. He’s yet to wake Juju. (I <3 my wonderful sleepers, thank you universe.) I don't bring him in to bed to nurse until 5:00 a.m. so sometimes the 4:00-5:00 a.m. slot is a bit of a bear with lots of pacifier replacement. He doesn't cry, really, just lies there awake and grizzles, and falls back to sleep for 20 minutes or so each time I put the pacifier in. We decided on 5:00 as our wakeup time because it's a full night's sleep for him and also because both of us are pretty much up for the day once he comes into bed with us. I can handle waking at 5:00 a.m. every day, but I can't handle 4:00. At 5:00 or so I'll bring him into bed to nurse. Sometimes he'll snooze a bit after this and I'll get up to get ready and leave him to snuggle with C. Juju usually wakes around 6:00.
I've been really happy with this so far. I'm sure it wouldn't be as smooth with kiddos who weren't such good sleepers, but it's really been no big deal. I am glad for the effort I put into sleep training both kids early on as it has paid off in spades. We did a modified CIO with both kids at 4 months old and while I know it isn't for everyone I do recommend it if you think it's something that would work for your family.
Things that I think helped:
-Lots of white noise. Jelly has a sound machine right next to him in the crib to block out any noise from Juju getting into bed and requesting 8,000 hugs and drinks of water.
-We made a little nest on one side of the crib for Jelly by blocking off the other half with pillows and hanging blankets over the sides. Not as much light gets in this way and he seems to feel safer and more snuggled in like he was in the little cosleeper.
-I like to keep things pretty dark in there. Your results may vary, I suppose, but mo’ light = mo’ problems, in my opinion. Juju does have a small nightlight but that’s all the light in there.